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Balance the Surprise Seesaw

Once upon a time, a client came to us with a challenge we love to hear: “we need more surprise!” We jumped into our surprise mobile (i.e. NYC subway) and headed to their office, expecting to find a sea of gray cubicles and florescent lighting. Instead, we walked into an sunny, color-splattered, plant-covered loft, brimming…

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Bury a Cookie to Create Delight

There are two reasons I hadn’t yet tried a waffle from the Wafels & Dinges truck parked at Lincoln Center: 1. I’m not supposed to eat gluten. 2. There’s always a long line. A few days ago, it was rainy and just generally ick, leading to absolutely no waffle line, leading to reason #1 for…

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Schedule One Yes Day & Get Happier

Yesterday our phone rang past after hours when I was exhausted and ready to call it a day, but I decided to say “yes” and pick it up. It paid off. The call came from a lovely reporter at Men’s Health Magazine writing an article on becoming more spontaneous to get happier. No big deal. Just…

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3 Ways to Cope with Uncertainty

While teaching my psychology class yesterday, we got into a conversation about the problem of truth. Namely: just because you think you know something and our entire society thinks it knows something, doesn’t make it true. (Remember that whole flat earth theory?) Back when information wasn’t dangling all around us, this wasn’t nearly as obvious,…

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Discuss the Undiscussable

The bodega near my apartment sells dented cat food cans. The owner of the bodega is a warm, wonderful man who is deeply proud of his store, and I want to support his business, but (after an earlier mossy, green cat food incident) I refuse to buy dented cans. I have an internal debate in…

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Effort = Growth

This past weekend I did two things that made me cringe: soldering and then yoga. In the first experience I almost singed my eyebrow, in the second I had to come face to face with the 80-year-old-like limberness of my limbs. prequalifying for a loan In the first two minutes, I felt a bunch of…

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Find Buried Treasure in Your Conversation

An example of a conversation I never want to have again: “Hi.” “Hi.” “How are you?” “How are you?” “…” As hard as I try to avoid them, these content-less exchanges still sneak up on me. And they make me sad. Compare that empty calorie of a conversation to the exchange that takes you on…

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Master the Entrance

Yesterday I walked into my dark, empty apartment, still typing on my phone, when I came face to face with this: That, ladies and gentlemen,  is my husband wearing a chicken face. According to him, I produced a triple scream: ah ahh AHHHHHH! To the untrained eye this exchange may look like a juvenile prank…

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Say “I Don’t Know. I Wonder.”

I was 14 years old and suffering from a severe case of know-it-all-itis, when my high school principal, Mr. Bruckner, stopped me in the hallway and said: “Are you studying for the SATs?” www.managed-ppc.co.uk/justit/files/ “Yeah.” “Do you know what the word ‘esoteric’ means?” “Uh… yeah.” “What?” “…What?” “What does it mean?” “You don’t know what…

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The Tension of the Unknown

Imagine a stranger holding a black box with a hole cut into the side asks: “Would you like to reach your hand inside?” Do you do it? This is the question I asked over and over again in the lab with three and five year olds (using a big cardboard box). I wanted to discover…